Instead of gifts, please bring a picture or two. The pictures can be of you, of one or both of us at various stages of life, of family or friends - anything that makes you think of us.

You can pin your picture to a board at the ceremony to help create a collage of our lives and all the family and friends who will celebrate with us.

Other than that, your presence is present enough. Truly. We mean it.

After thirteen years together, we have plenty of kitchen gadgets, dinnerware, linens, and more tchotchkes than even two gay men know what to do with. Plus, we live in a fully outfitted and very small apartment. Really. Just come celebrate with us and bring your good spirits!

We do, however, realize that some of you will still want to buy us a wedding present. If you insist, perhaps you'd like to contribute to our honeymoon.

We are planning to spend our honeymoon in India this November. We have been planning this trip for years and hope to cover a great deal of territory over two weeks, traveling from Delhi through the deserts of Rajasthan to Jodhpur, Bikaner, Jaisalmer, Udaipur, Jaipur and Agra. Perhaps your gift could turn into a present of dinner in Old Delhi, a night in a haveli in Jaisalmer, our rail ticket through the sands of the Thar Desert, a room with a view of Lake Pichola, a hot chai to help ease the torture of Indian Rail or a tour of the Taj Mahal. We promise to send you pictures and a personal report on what your gift made possible when we return. If you earmark your gift for something specific, we'll send you a picture of us enjoying it!